Freddie Mercury and Queen - Friends will be friends
Type of Spiritual Experience
Freddie Mercury – His Life in his own Words [compiled by Greg Brooks and Simon Lupton]
There have been only two individuals who have given back as much love to me as I gave to them: Mary, with whom I had a long affair, and our cat, Jerry.
I might have all the problems in the world, but I have Mary and that gets me through. She only lives about two minutes from me. I still see her every day and I am as fond of her now as I have ever been. I'll love her until I draw my last breath.
Sometimes a good friend is much more valuable than a lover. Apart from Mary I don't have any real friends. I don't think I do. Friends come and go. A real true friend for me has to be very strong to put up with me. I think Mary has gone through just about everything with me. She has the depth and the qualities to adapt to me and talk to me about very serious things. Even if we are not together at the time, I talk to her a lot on the phone. She’s about the only person I can think of. Otherwise I just fend for myself and I cross my hurdles in my own way.
Mary is one of my closest friends in the world. Ours is a pure friendship and a friendship of the highest standard. It's an instinctive thing. I have built up an immense bond with Mary. I open up to her more than anybody else. We have gone through a lot of ups and downs in our time together, but that has made our relationship all the stronger. I know a lot of people find it hard to understand our relationship. Other people who come into our lives just have to accept it. We love each other very much and look after each other. I don't want anybody else.
All my lovers asked me why they couldn't replace Mary, but it's simply impossible. Mary is my common-law wife. To me, it was a marriage. What is marriage anyway, something that you sign? As far as we were concerned, we were married and we carry on now like we are. Marriage is a term for other people. You can actually go through the entire process without saying you're married. Just because a piece of paper ties you... I don't know about that it's farcical.
I treat Mary as my common-law wife and we're getting on fine. It's where the heart is that matters. We're happy with each other and it doesn't matter what other people think. We believe in each other and that’s enough for me. We believe in each other, so fuck everybody else. Nobody should tell us what to do, as far as I'm concerned we are married. It's a God given situation.
I met Mary around 1970 and ever since then we have had a wonderful relationship. I met her at the Biba boutique in London, where she worked. I was a Biba freak right from the beginning, way before it got turned into a big department store. When I used to go there it was just a small boutique. We were closer than anybody else, though we stopped living together after about seven years. Our love affair ended in tears, but a deep bond grew out of it, and that's something nobody can take away from us. It's unreachable.
People always ask me about sexuality and all those things, right from the early days, but I couldn't fall in love with a man the same way as I have with Mary.
I'm not built to be a family man. I'm much too restless and highly strung for that. Mary and I have a good understanding. She gives me the freedom I need.
I don't feel jealous of her lovers because, of course, she has a life to lead, and so do I. Basically, I try to make sure she's happy with whoever she's with, and she tries to do the same for me. We look after each other and that’s a wonderful form of love.