Common steps and sub-activities
Friendship and companionship
In the section on overload you will find that loneliness and isolation can result in people having glimpses of the spiritual world via overload. The glimpse given can occasionally help a person when they are down. But people who are overloaded with loneliness, or who feel isolated and vulnerable are often ill as a result and emotionally exhausted.
We are a tribal and community based animal, dependent on others for our survival, and lack of input from human beings or other creatures is perceived by the Will as a real Threat. It may provoke Overwhelming fear and terror because there is no one to help us when things go wrong. Old people alone in their houses, for example, and desperately lonely feel all these things, fear and unhappiness plus a host of other negative Emotions.
The opposite is the use of friendship and companionship to suppress the Threat of isolation and the fear of being alone. Thus by caring for each other – forming small communities via the Internet or within your neighbourhood, or via a group with shared interests or even via work, you take away a Threat and a very significant Threat.
Jesus mentioned it often and, of course, formed his own little community via his disciples, Mother and Mary Magdalene.
The Buddha both taught it and practised it.
To have friends, be one.
Keep in touch with those you care about. Show affection and love via your words and actions. Give them a hug. Go round to see them. No need for dinner parties, just visit and talk and show you like them.
Be trustworthy and support them. Take their side if need be, don’t let them down.
If you find yourself alone ask yourself the questions:
- Do I talk about other people and gossip about them? – if yes you cannot be trusted.
- Do I have any real interests outside work? – if no then you have no basis for a friendship.
- Have I ever helped a friend or person who was in need? – if no then you have been a friend to no one.
- Can I be trusted with a secret? - if no then you cannot be trusted with friendship.
- Have I ever hurt someone who thought of me as a friend? – if yes you were not their friend.
- Have I ever sided with a person who was hurting the person I called a friend? – if yes then you were no friend.
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