Common steps and sub-activities

Reducing desires - true wishes or imposed or false wishes

Problems come in everyone’s life when the things that used to make them happy start being taken for granted, or they start to compare their life with other people’s lives [fictional or not] and they get dissatisfied, or worse jealous.  At this point people stop thinking about the fact they are happy as they are and start to add all sorts of things that [apparently] makes other people happy.

And they add spurious objectives. 

Scrutinise every single objective on your list and cut out the ones that have appeared by devious means.

Objective

Why have you got this objective?

Would this actually make you happier?

I would like to go on holiday to a tropical island 

Because I think it will give me a sense of peace and the colours and sounds look beautiful

Yes

I would like to be looked after like I was when I was a child 

Because I felt safe and happy then and loved

Yes

I would like to own a Ferrari

Because Jeremy Clarkson raves about them and they look sleek and fast and I would like to feel what it is like to go that fast

Actually probably not, the cost of upkeep, the cost of insurance would only worry me and if I want to know what going that fast is really like all I have to do is have a day on a race track

I would like to own a Yacht

Because on a yacht you are free of all the worries of a house and bills and all you have is the wind and the waves and the chance to go wonderful places

Actually probably not.  The cost of a yacht is prohibitive, I am constantly seasick on water and I don’t like being cold and wet.  I guess what I really want is freedom from the house I am in, the bills  and the chance to go to nice places

I would like to own a Holiday home

Because … don’t know really ….. perhaps because where we live is horrible and I just want to get away from the city and all the rat race

Actually probably not.  The cost of a holiday home is prohibitive and I will have to take on yet more debt.  What I really want is to get away from the city and the rat race

I would like to have Sex every day

Are you joking?  Because it sends me high high high

Actually probably not.  The only reason I would like this is because my job means I hardly ever get any sex

I would like to be a millionaire

Because then I wouldn’t have any worries and I could buy anything I want

Actually probably not.  Most of the things I want money cannot buy and money only gives you worry not takes it away