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African nurse meets her dead grandmother

Identifier

013073

Type of Spiritual Experience

Background

The description calls it an NDE, but this classification is not correct, it is more like a lucid dream with possible out of body.  It would have been interesting to know what she was ill from.
 

A description of the experience

The Wisdom of Near-Death Experiences – Dr Penny Sartori

The following example was told to me by an African nurse who had heard a talk I had given on my research. She was very reluctant to talk about her NDE at first. After a few months she reported:

I had not been well for about two days. It was nothing specific, just unwell, a bit of a headache. On the day that it happened my mother said that I looked tired and I should go and lie down. She told me not to lock the door of my room. I had my own bedroom and usually I locked the door when I went to bed. I went to lie down and drifted into a nice sleep. I don't know how long I slept for but I woke up and my mother, father and sister were all in my room crying.

I’d been in a very nice sleep, very comfortable. I could hear my mother’s voice very far away. It was almost like a whisper but I could tell it was my mother's voice . . . like she was calling. There was an image and I knew this was my mother, but it wasn't a full image. I could see her figure but it was blurry and I couldn't make out any features - I just knew it was my mother. I couldn't wake up; I couldn't respond to her calling, I was trying but I couldn't. I was thinking to myself, 'I need to wake up but my body won't move.'

My whole body was too heavy for me and I couldn't move it. Then suddenly I was floating but floating towards my mother, where her voice was. It took a long time, the whole process was in slow motion.

On the opposite side to where my mother's voice was, I could hear my grandmother’s voice. I could see her face but not her body – she looked younger than when she died. She was smiling. It was my mother's face that looked upset. I could see her face but not her body.

When I looked at both my grandmother and mother I went towards my mother as she was crying and calling me but my grandmother was smiling.  I went to my mother as she was distressed and seemed to need me more. My body was struggling to wake and move; I needed to go to my mother then I had the floating feeling and I was going to where my mother was I don't recall making contact, just floating towards her

I can't remember anything else, just waking up with my father leaning over me. My father had been shaking me for a very long time to wake me up. To my family I had been completely unconscious. I was not making any movement at all but in my mind I felt that I had made some movements. They all thought that I was dead.

I later learned that my mother was the first to come and check on me, she called me and started shaking me but there was no response.

She called my father; they were both shaking and calling me but there was no response and I didn't make any movement.

When I woke up I felt really tired and just wanted to go back to sleep again. They wouldn't let me go back to sleep - they were too scared. For the next three nights my mother slept in my room and my mother woke me up each night because I had gone into a very deep sleep. Every time she woke me she could tell by my breathing that I was going into a very deep sleep. I don't know if these are connected to that experience but I was having very strange dreams at the point of waking.

The first time I was in a deep ditch and my mother was trying to get me out, then I was trapped in a car and my mother was trying to get me out; I can't remember the third dream now. Every time she woke me it was taking a long time for me to wake, much longer than usual.  I didn't think anything about it until I heard you talk about them.

My mother always stopped me talking about that time because it frightened her so much; I was never allowed to talk about it. The only other person I told about it was my sister but that was years later. We were talking about the time I wouldn't wake up and she said that I’d scared the whole family and then I told her about what I remembered. I never attached any significance to it; I just put it down to an odd experience.

The source of the experience

Ordinary person

Concepts, symbols and science items

Symbols

Abyss
Car
Valley

Science Items

Atonia

Activities and commonsteps

Activities

Suppressions

Dreaming and lucid dreaming

Commonsteps

References