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Arlene’s common-law boyfriend, Bill, was becoming very rude and verbally abusive

Identifier

024579

Type of spiritual experience

Background

It is difficult to know whether this was a vision or a past life.  Both are experiences of course, but the vision may have been composed for her to help her through the problems she was having.  Given the seriousness of the problems, the vision seems more likely.  In other words her Higher spirit answered her prayers [on behalf of God], just as she had asked.

A description of the experience

Dr Yvonne Kason – Farther Shores

Two years ago, I was having bad relationship problems.  My common-law boyfriend, Bill was becoming very rude and verbally abusive. I started suspecting that he was having an affair. This was a phase in my life when I had been meditating for one hour a day. I had been praying for guidance for God to help me understand what was going wrong with my relationship.

Suddenly, one day during my meditation, I got a clear visual memory of a past life that I had seemed to live with Bill. I was the man in that life, and Bill was a woman, my wife. In the past-life memory, I had caught my wife having an affair with another man. I saw myself kill my wife (Bill) in the heat of an argument.

This past-life memory had a devastating impact on me. I suddenly felt very guilty, responsible in some way for the problems I was having with Bill. Further, I had nobody to talk to. I had no friends who believed in past lives, and I certainly couldn’t talk to Bill. Our relationship became even more strained than before.

A few weeks later another past-life memory came to me during meditation. In this one, I was a woman and Bill was my husband. This time he was very abusive. He was unfaithful, having numerous affairs, and he also argued with me frequently and hit me during arguments.

I could see a real parallel in how Bill was beginning to be abusive towards me in this life.

I felt overwhelmed and confused by these memories. I had no idea how to integrate them into my life. I started to worry that they were hallucinations and that I might be going crazy. I was totally preoccupied with them and found it difficult to concentrate on my work. I finally became so anxious that I was unable to concentrate, and I had to take time off work. I heard about Dr. Kason, so I went to her office.

She reassured me that what seemed to be past-life memories were common, and were not a sign that I was going crazy. She helped me see them as something positive, a gift from the unconscious mind to help me understand the dynamics of my problems with Bill. I read a book she recommended about other people who have recalled past-life memories. I took Dr. Kason’s advice to adopt a more regular lifestyle, with more sleep and more exercise.

I went for daily walks out in a local park. I started going for weekly psychotherapy sessions with a psychologist in my area. Within a few weeks I felt much, calmer, and I was able to return to work. With the help of psychotherapy, I developed the inner strength to end the abusive relationship with Bill two months later.

The source of the experience

Ordinary person

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Observation contributed by: Margaret Booth