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And they met him to help him on his journey

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021397

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The Art of Dying – Dr Peter and Elizabeth Fenwick

Valerie Feasby-Quigley nursed her father at home while he was dying of lung cancer. About two weeks before his death he started to tell her about the various dead family members who had been to visit him and whom he could see and talk to. She assumed that these 'visits' were due to the drugs he was on.

On a couple of occasions when I heard, him talking, I thought he was calling me. When I went to his room to ask what he wanted, he would say, ‘Nothing, I was talking to your mum.' On the day he died…  he said, 'Look, there's your mum and David, (her brother), they’ve come again. I think I'll go now.’ 

I thought he meant he wanted to go to sleep, so I said, 'OK Dad, just lie back and close your eyes - you can go to sleep now.' I held his hand; he lay back on his pillow, still looking at the wall opposite, and just sighed a deep breath and passed away. I put all this down to the medication, he was on.

When I cleaned his room after the funeral, I found the tablets that I had been giving him, and I thought he was taking under the bed. He had not taken any of his medication. It then dawned on me that he was not hallucinating; he must have really seen my mother and brother, and they met him to help him on his journey.

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Observation contributed by: Neffy Limb